The Fear Bed
Today is all we have...actually this moment is all we have. What are you doing right now to affect your job search? Other than reading this post, what are you doing?
A better question is what are you not doing for your search? The answer to this question may reveal what you should be doing. It is never easy to do what we should do sometimes is it? There are many reasons for this but most of them sleep in the bed of fear. The fear bed is where we put our fears to sleep. They are like a little baby. You make a special room with special furnishings and special colors and theme. You keep out all the noise, place your baby in the bed and slowly close the door. Once the door is closed a heavy sigh of relief goes out.
We don't want to wake a sleeping baby do we? We really want some peace and quiet; just for a short time. This is where we put our fears. We try to keep them closed up and comfortable so they don't wake up. When a fear wakes up there are only two things we can do. The first is to try and put it back to sleep by ignoring it or gently soothing it so no one hears. The second thing we can do is pick it up and start to work with it. This is not normally what we want to do. It is much easier to put it back to sleep.
Try something new. Wake up one of your fears today. Wake it up gently and begin to understand why it is yours. Think about when it started. Think about why you ignored it for so long. Think about where your life would have gone if you had not ignored it. Then think about what your life could be like if you didn't have it. Think about this...dream about it.
Dream about it as much as it takes to begin to envision yourself "on the other side" of it. Once you start seeing yourself without this fear, start to trace your steps back. Go from the image of you without a thought of the fear doing something you only dreamed about. Move back to where you still had the fear but it was slowly going away. Finally, go back to where you are right now and what first step you need to take to start to make that fear begin to disappear.
My number one fear used to be public speaking. I have so many stories about how I dodged speaking in front of a group for many, many years. I would leave meeting faking a telephone call or going to the bathroom when I knew it was getting close to "my time" to speak. I knew every trick in the book to ignore my fear and let it keep sleeping like that little baby. Then one day I asked myself why I had the fear. I traced it back to my self-centered-ness. I traced it back to me not thinking much about myself and thinking people would laugh at me. It was me I was worried about not the speaking.
When I realized this, I decided to try and remove those thoughts by telling myself over and over that I had something important to say. I kept saying that people wanted to hear what I wanted to say just as I did of them. This began a s-l-o-w process of me becoming less and less afraid of public speaking.
What is your fear? Ready to start getting rid of it? Practice today within your job search. I know you can make a change!
Today I am in a new library in my neighborhood. I can bring my coffee and computer and spread out. The library is not officially open yet so I am one of the few patrons. The coffee is good, the A/C is strong and I have some more work to do before the end of the day.
Let's Get Started!
Jeff
A better question is what are you not doing for your search? The answer to this question may reveal what you should be doing. It is never easy to do what we should do sometimes is it? There are many reasons for this but most of them sleep in the bed of fear. The fear bed is where we put our fears to sleep. They are like a little baby. You make a special room with special furnishings and special colors and theme. You keep out all the noise, place your baby in the bed and slowly close the door. Once the door is closed a heavy sigh of relief goes out.
We don't want to wake a sleeping baby do we? We really want some peace and quiet; just for a short time. This is where we put our fears. We try to keep them closed up and comfortable so they don't wake up. When a fear wakes up there are only two things we can do. The first is to try and put it back to sleep by ignoring it or gently soothing it so no one hears. The second thing we can do is pick it up and start to work with it. This is not normally what we want to do. It is much easier to put it back to sleep.
Try something new. Wake up one of your fears today. Wake it up gently and begin to understand why it is yours. Think about when it started. Think about why you ignored it for so long. Think about where your life would have gone if you had not ignored it. Then think about what your life could be like if you didn't have it. Think about this...dream about it.
Dream about it as much as it takes to begin to envision yourself "on the other side" of it. Once you start seeing yourself without this fear, start to trace your steps back. Go from the image of you without a thought of the fear doing something you only dreamed about. Move back to where you still had the fear but it was slowly going away. Finally, go back to where you are right now and what first step you need to take to start to make that fear begin to disappear.
My number one fear used to be public speaking. I have so many stories about how I dodged speaking in front of a group for many, many years. I would leave meeting faking a telephone call or going to the bathroom when I knew it was getting close to "my time" to speak. I knew every trick in the book to ignore my fear and let it keep sleeping like that little baby. Then one day I asked myself why I had the fear. I traced it back to my self-centered-ness. I traced it back to me not thinking much about myself and thinking people would laugh at me. It was me I was worried about not the speaking.
When I realized this, I decided to try and remove those thoughts by telling myself over and over that I had something important to say. I kept saying that people wanted to hear what I wanted to say just as I did of them. This began a s-l-o-w process of me becoming less and less afraid of public speaking.
What is your fear? Ready to start getting rid of it? Practice today within your job search. I know you can make a change!
Today I am in a new library in my neighborhood. I can bring my coffee and computer and spread out. The library is not officially open yet so I am one of the few patrons. The coffee is good, the A/C is strong and I have some more work to do before the end of the day.
Let's Get Started!
Jeff
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