What Are YOU Going To Be?
What a daunting question to answer. Our parents, family members, friends and everyone else has asked this questions for years. Why is this question so important?
I have tackled this one on a couple of occasions with others. There are is really only one reason to ask this type of question. The only reason is because the asker thinks the receiver doesn't have a clue on what they are doing and wants to help. That is it. There is no other secret than they think they can help or want to encourage you to go in a particular direction for any number of reasons.
It is an open ended question in hopes you will give them some room to give advice. Don't you hate advice givers. Wouldn't you rather just have them give you some $$ instead. Advice is not very good unless it is asked for. If you are not asking for the advice, EVERYONE else, please don't give it.
Most of these people have good intentions. The problem with good intentions is that they are genesis in self centered behavior. Self centered not in a malicious way but in putting their interests before someone else.
Whenever you get the "What are you going to do with your life" type questions, I think you should just cut to the chase and ask to the person: "I don't know, what do you think I should do." This will really give you the ability to hear what they have to say when they weren't ready to ask the question. Once they tell you their opinion, you can say thanks for sharing and move on.
This is a great way to handle this type of situation...handle it head on.
Good luck with this one. I like to tinker with people who are trying to make me do things their way. It is fun and can really add to the "grape-vine" talk that is out there. Enjoy!
Good Starbucks today.
Let's Get Started!
Jeff
I have tackled this one on a couple of occasions with others. There are is really only one reason to ask this type of question. The only reason is because the asker thinks the receiver doesn't have a clue on what they are doing and wants to help. That is it. There is no other secret than they think they can help or want to encourage you to go in a particular direction for any number of reasons.
It is an open ended question in hopes you will give them some room to give advice. Don't you hate advice givers. Wouldn't you rather just have them give you some $$ instead. Advice is not very good unless it is asked for. If you are not asking for the advice, EVERYONE else, please don't give it.
Most of these people have good intentions. The problem with good intentions is that they are genesis in self centered behavior. Self centered not in a malicious way but in putting their interests before someone else.
Whenever you get the "What are you going to do with your life" type questions, I think you should just cut to the chase and ask to the person: "I don't know, what do you think I should do." This will really give you the ability to hear what they have to say when they weren't ready to ask the question. Once they tell you their opinion, you can say thanks for sharing and move on.
This is a great way to handle this type of situation...handle it head on.
Good luck with this one. I like to tinker with people who are trying to make me do things their way. It is fun and can really add to the "grape-vine" talk that is out there. Enjoy!
Good Starbucks today.
Let's Get Started!
Jeff
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